You Be You

by Keith Turner on October 2, 2016

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Miller Lite I had the  most interesting weekend all due to a Miller Lite sign I had posted on Face for sale. Not long after I had posted it on Facebook I received a message from my sister “Your selling this sign? Matt is interested in it and obviously we’d pay for shipping.” Up to this point my Sister and I had almost no contact for over 13 years. Matt has been her husband for over 11 years and we had never met.

Coming out of the closet and telling my family I was gay caused a big family rift. For basically the last 13 years I have pretended that my five siblings do not exist and they have pretended I do not exist. After receiving the message from my sister I felt like maybe it was time to reconnect with her.  I decided to drive to Boise and deliver the sign in person.

The last time that Robbie and I really interacted was in 1994 when I took her to see The Lion King. I was a judgmental asshole. I made it clear that I thought she was living a sinful life and needed to repent. I was coming at this from a place of thinking I was being loving. At that time I had no real idea what it meant to love someone.  Robbie who is my younger sister understood life and love much better then I did at that time.

I have stopped being anything other than me as defined by me for the last year. It has opened up a whole new world of wonderful discoveries about me. I love me more then I ever have. I love my life tremendously. I am no longer fitting into others perceptions or judgement of how I should be or act. It is from this place that I have been able to release my judgement of other people things and places and be open to receive all that is in the world.

It was from this place that I met my sister Robbie for the first time in Boise. All other times we had interacted I was in a place of judgement. This prevented me from being able to really see her. Matt and Robbie are wonderful people. It took me a long time to open myself up and release any judgement I had and be able to see them as they are.

Robbie is Robbie and did not hide any of herself from me. Matt is Matt and did not hide any of himself from me. I am Me and I did not hid any of myself from them. It was a magical weekend of personal discovery and the beginning of a beautiful relationship between us.

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  1. I love this! Thank you so much Keith. This means more to me than you will ever understand. I have always been viewed as the black sheep and living in sin my whole life, but I never let that stop me from being me and finding my place in the world. If anything it made me hide who I really was from certain people. Never with any animosity, just didn’t want to be judged. It was great to hang out and be me. No pretenses, no guarding, just me. You may be a few shades crazy but so am I. So glad we are siblings and we’re able to reconnect.

  2. I fell the same way my new friend!! I have spent my whole life not fitting the mold. Im like popeye i am who i am tattoos drink to much but at the end of the day would give anyone the punk rock shirt off my back!! We are 138 ! Thanks for helping me to see more clearly love my little lady and your one hell of a guy glad to call you family!!

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